How to Save Your Marriage When Only One Spouse Wants a Divorce

I'm often told (and I know from experience) that the world would be a much simpler place if both spouses were on board with a divorce at the same time. However, this is rarely the case. In my experience, more often than not, one spouse is ready to throw in the towel while the other wants desperately to pick up the pieces and fight for the marriage. However, saving your marriage when you are the only one who wants to can be a very difficult task. Often the divorcing spouse won't listen to (or isn't receptive to) anything that you say or do. They only want to move forward with the divorce and will block out any attempts that you make to change their mind. You're often left feeling like your only choices are to: demean yourself and plead; try to pull out all of the stops; try to manipulate them into changing their mind; or just giving up / or giving in. There's another way to handle this that often works better in the long run. It's approaching this situation from another angle and it requires controlling the only thing that you can control right now - yourself.

Take A Careful Look At What You're Really Saying Or Implying To Your Spouse: Obviously, you've given your spouse the verbal message that you want to save the marriage rather than getting a divorce. But is that the only thing that your words, gestures, and non verbal cues are saying? Often the way that you say things and the action that you take speaks just as loudly (if not more so) than any words that you could say. Often, divorcing spouses tell me that they believe the spouse who wants to save the marriage has tried to "beat them down" to get them to "give in."

And many times, (although neither of you may consciously realize it) your tone often implies that they are just wrong and not entitled to want things to be better. They will often read this as your not thinking that their needs or wishes are as valid as yours or that they are gravely mistaken about their own life. This is certainly not the message that you want to send to someone that you are trying to convince to stay.

Make Sure That The Message You Are Sending Is The One They Want To Hear: Stop and think about it. Why is it, really, that your spouse is blocking access to them right now? Because you are saying what he doesn't want to hear. You are trying to change his mind and get him to "give in." No one wants to emerge the loser in this stand off, of course. So, he's going to do everything that he can to block out your words and actions. Clearly, this is not what you want. To save your marriage, you'll need him to be available and receptive to you. So, how do you get around this and how do you move from where you are now to where you eventually need to be? You change your message so that you are (for right now) telling him the message that he wants to hear.

Before you think this advice is just crazy, please know that I'm not telling you to give up or give in. Not at all. I'm telling you this because this is the way that you are going to regain access to your spouse. So, at a time when no one is rushed and everyone is calm, convincingly tell your spouse that you've been thinking about the marriage and you now agree that it is seriously flawed, not working for you both, and that your spouse is absolutely right for wanting to change things. Tell him that although you both know that you want to save the marriage, you have to admit that a truce could do you both good. Explain that no matter how this ultimately works out, that your spouse is too important to you to part with anything but good terms. Vow to act in such a way that is going to ensure that (at least from your end) you will have no regrets about the way that you have handled this.

Now, I doubt very seriously that this alone will bring on a miraculous change at first. Your spouse will likely not instantly believe your change of heart. That's OK because you are prepared to wait it out and to prove them wrong. You proceed by doing exactly what you said - you give them their space, you conduct yourself in way that you can be proud of, and you make sure that they know that you are using taking full advantage of the space yourself.

Putting Your Best Self On Full Display: I have many spouses tell me that the real, true reason that they want the divorce is because they feel that the marriage has gone cold and they don't see how this could ever change. They believe that is too late for any real and lasting change. Many times, they miss the spouse that they used to have before responsibilities and life got in the way. They long for the way things used to be, when you would listen intently to what they said, laugh at their jokes, and care deeply about their happiness. They often tell me the spouse who used to have the easy laugh and open heart is now closed off.

Why is this important for you to know? Because you have the ability to change what you are showing them. You are the person they want back. You've just buried the part of yourself that they love the most. You both may think it's too late, but it's often not. The key for you right now (once you've changed the message you are sending) is to put the light hearted, vibrant person they first loved on full display again so that he knows she still exists. I don't mean putting on a show when he doesn't want to see one. I mean going out with friends, conducting yourself as the best version of you, and making sure your spouse knows about this. It's very likely that once he does, he'll want to see more for himself. And when he does, you keep right on doing what is going to work, little by little, until your marriage is back on solid ground.

Ending a Marriage: How to Survive It

People who get married have the notion of happily ever after. However, with the continuous rise of divorce in the country, you already know that a lot don't end up that way. If you ever find yourself in a broken marriage, you should know that there's hope. There's a way for you to get back on your feet and cope with the pain more effectively.

What You Can Do

Try to resolve it. Some marriages don't have to go through the painful divorce phase. Before you finally say it's completely over, try to resolve the issues. Who knows, you may be able to save the relationship.

Learn to accept the truth. If you can no longer put a decent resolution to the problem, then you should start accepting the truth that the marriage may already be over. This can be a very hard decision to make, but unless you can embrace the reality, you will never be able to find the opportunity to move on and look forward to what the future may be waiting for you.

Be mindful of your health. A divorce can definitely damage your health. There will be plenty of sleepless nights, a struggle with depression and anxiety, a battle with pent-up emotions such as anger and hurt, as well as loss of appetite and confidence. The process is extremely stressful.

But you really cannot afford to be sick during this time, especially if you need to take care of your kids. Develop a more proactive way of facing the issue at hand by taking care of yourself. Eat right and exercise. These two things can also remove the toxins that are in the body, making you feel cleaner and fresher. You feel invigorated. Meditation can boost the level of serotonin, so you will get not only a clear mind but also a happier mood.

Use subliminal messages. Keeping your confidence up can be a tough challenge, but you can do it, more so if you're going to use subliminal messages. The subliminal messages can improve your manner of thinking. You can use them to change your negative emotions to positive ones. Check these subliminal messages:

I can definitely get through this pain.
I still believe in love and marriage.
I can fully accept the reality that is in front of me.
I have enough strength that will help me overcome this challenge.

The subliminal messages can provide you a sense of optimism and motivation, especially in times when you think you have been bled dry.

Explore. Surely there are some things you haven't accomplished during your marriage, simply because the marriage itself restrained you from doing so. For example, you cannot meet up with your friends as often as you can or entertain admiration from the men. Rather than sulk and wallow in self-pity, why don't you try to explore these things? It will make you realize there are still so many things that have to be discovered, and the end in marriage doesn't completely end everything about you.

4 Ways To Rebuild A Marriage With The Help Of Subliminal Videos

Marriages today are breaking up left and right. Before your marriage goes all the way downhill and reaches a divorce settlement, it would be best if you take stock of your situation early and try to rebuild it, rather than forsake what are supposed to be lifelong vows without a fight. Thankfully, there are now subliminal videos that can actually help save and rebuild what's lost in your marriage.

It may sound a bit absurd. How can subliminal videos help save a marriage? Subliminal videos are videos or slideshows that deliver hidden messages to the subconscious mind. These messages can be used to change any negative aspects of one's behavior, personality, and beliefs that damage a marriage. And since change occurs from the subconscious, which is what controls all these things, you don't have to do anything else other than just watch the videos and observe improvements in your married life.

Here are the different ways through which different types of subliminal videos can help you save your marriage.

1. See your partner's positive side more strongly. You can use subliminal videos to change you from a negative person to a positive one. This way, you will more strongly see the positive traits of your partner, rather than focus on their negative ones. The tendency to see the bad in people and to find fault in them, especially in your partner, usually develops into a full-blown habit, and this is one of the worst habits that have the greatest effect on your marriage. So with this fickle habit gone, you can see your partner in a more appreciative way.

2. Completely delete past problems and hurts. One of the reasons why a lot of couples break up these days is because they seem to keep a record of everything that their partners have done wrong since they first got married. This is no way to save a marriage. A marriage is a lifelong commitment, so each partner should let bygones be bygones and not keep resentment hidden in their hearts.

There are now subliminal videos that can help you overcome past anger, hurt, and resentment. It eliminates all these negative emotions straight from the roots, which are all found in the subconscious. These videos can cleanse you right up until your emotions are reset. And this time around, you should stop keeping tabs on who's right and who's wrong and rather just be forgiving towards each other.

3. Rewrite trust into the script. If you have experienced a heavy blow in your marriage that have negatively affected the trust that's between the two of you, you can easily rebuild that trust with the help of subliminal videos. By sending the right subliminal messages to your subconscious, the videos can help make you more trusting towards your partner.

4. Improve communication. There are also videos that are designed to help improve the communication skills of each person. If both partners watch these videos, they can start communicating more productively and positively with one another. And as they say, communication is key in a lasting marriage.

Marriage Communication - How Does It Work?

A good marriage thrives on the open exchange of emotion, desires, and beliefs. In fact, communication is one of the most important aspects of a satisfying marriage. Most marriages go through rough times, which can change the way spouses communicate with each other. Many couples develop bad habits and create destructive patterns when things aren't going well.

How Does Communicate Work?

Many people in trouble marriage say, "We just don't communicate anymore." Most likely, they mean to say that they don't communicate effectively anymore. The truth is that people are communicating all the time. Even two people giving each other the silent treatment are communicating with each other.

This article will focus on five common pathways of communication within marriage.

1. non-verbal physical expression (behavior, facial expressions, gestures, etc)

2. spoken or written word

3. touch

4. emotion

5. context of the situation

It's easy to just focus on words, but that's only a fraction of the information couples share back and forth. In the next section, you'll read an example of a potentially difficult situation for a married couple. Look for all the different ways information is being communicated in the story below.

Why You Should Look For New Birthday Messages

A birthday comes once in every year thus the reason to make the day memorable. Birthday celebrations are held in high regard by many people with some spending a substantial amount of money all for the purpose of making the day a success. But a birthday ceremony would pass to be just like another day if no nice messages were passed across to the celebrant. Thus birthday SMS have become a very popular way of passing best wishes messages. It's a way of showing that one cares for people who are far apart and thus not in a position to exchange gifts.

A happy birthday SMS is not just a mere message but can be a prayer as well as a wish. A typical birthday SMS contains phrases that express what the sender would like the celebrant to achieve in their lifetime. Others will are cheer messages that aim at brightening the recipient's day. When writing a birthday messages it's good to consider the recipient's age, likes and dislikes. Thus the message will be in a form that matches to what the recipient would appreciate. For instance aspects like favorite color could be helpful when the writer wants to add a theme or animations to the message.

A birthday SMS should be eye-catching in order to captivate the reader and lure him/her into wanting to read the entire message. Adding a bit of humor to the SMS can make the both message and the day more memorable. Another principle when writing birthday messages is that 'less means more'. A brief message that is spot on will be easier for the recipient to read considering that there may be many more messages received.

The best time to send a birthday SMS messages is late on the day previous to the birthday date or early on the material day. It is such a special feeling to wake up in the morning and find the phone full of nice wishes. Nevertheless it's still possible to send a belated birthday wish if at all one was not able to do it on the actual birthday.

 How to Make Writing Love Letters a Tradition

Okay, let's get right to the point. You should write love letters because it will bring you (and your true love) many lifelong rewards. Besides, it's not that hard, especially with my simple love letter WRITE-ing technique.
But will you?
Will you write a love letter today, another next week and another the week after? Are you willing to make writing love letters a new tradition?
Don't answer that. We'll come back to that question in a moment.

Tra-di-tion - an inherited, established, or customary pattern of thought, action, or behavior. ~ Webster

Assuming Webster's correct, you'll engage in a pattern of thought, action or behavior if that thought, action or behavior is one of three things:

• Inherited.
• Established.
• Customary.

We're talking about writing love letters, so unless I'm completely in the dark, it's not a custom - at least here in the good old USA. So we can scratch that one off our list, because you'll never get started if you wait for it to become customary.
Now I'm going to make a wild guess. You did not inherit this tradition either. I'm right, aren't I? After all, this article is titled, "How to make writing love letters a tradition." Since make = establish and since you're still reading this, clearly you want to learn how to establish this tradition? Hold tight, we're getting there.
Although you did not inherit this tradition, you may hand it down to your children as part of their inheritance one day. So let's explore that idea a bit.
A tradition that's inherited is witnessed, not taught with empty words, but caught from the people you respect most - those who routinely impart a standard of living through words and actions. They communicate with behavior. It's education by example.

Good behavior is caught, not taught.
What kind of behavior will your children catch?
When you inherit a tradition like writing love letters, you're gifted with wisdom, lessons of vision, persistence, and leadership; spared the longsuffering, failure, hardship and trials endured by those who came before you; and granted encouragement, counsel and accountability from the tradition's founders (perhaps you one day) and of course, you're endowed with all its rewards.
Don't you wish you inherited this tradition? (Yes!?) Then why not become that person?
Become the person who gifts wisdom, spares their progeny of hardship, grants them good counsel and encouragement, endows them with rewards that last a lifetime (and beyond). Establish this tradition (writing love letters) and leave it to your children as part of your legacy and part of their inheritance. Your life is already full of traditions. What's one more, especially one of such great value?

What is a love letter tradition?
I'll tell you what it's not! Writing one lonely love letter is no tradition. It's a whim, not a pattern. Writing two love letters is a little better, but still not a tradition. Writing love letters every Sunday for the rest of your life - now that's a tradition.
Writing romantic love letters is the one the finest ways to get (and stay) committed to love and romance... a worthy cause, don't you agree?

Embrace this tradition, here's how:

Step  1 - Visualize the end result. Just imagine... decades from now you stumble upon an old chest up in the attic under lock and key. You tilt it open, sit back on your heals and think back as a small tear runs down your cheek. That old chest is your legacy. It's filled with your love and your life recorded in thousands of love letters. You don't have to read a single letter to know how great it was. You lived it. But you can't help yourself, so you reach inside and pull one out. After hours of reading, remembering, laughing and crying you head downstairs, click off the light, shut the door behind you and smile - a smile that can't be wiped off your face no matter what, because you have no regrets.
Step  2 - Understand the love letter benefits. It's amazing that such a simple gesture as writing a love letter could have such a profound impact on you and your true love. Not to mention on all those watching you, observing your commitment to love (family, friends, neighbors, kids). If writing a love letter truly could produce this list of benefits (builds excitement, instills joy, recovers happiness, creates hope, produces a forgiving spirit, builds anticipation, encourages intimate communication, stirs passions, cultivates trust and commitment, forms excellent habits, promotes romance, discourages destructive behavior, relieves stress, reduces fighting and tension, abolishes sadness, eradicates loneliness, diminishes grudges, dissolves boredom, sets a good example and endorses faithfulness, while deterring deceit & even divorce), then why not invest just 5 minutes a week and bring back the lost art one letter at a time?
Step 3 - Write down your love letter goals. There's something to be said for spontaneity. It creates excitement and thrills! You should definitely make a place for that in your life. But when faced with a challenge, setting goals and planning ahead is very wise. That is, if you plan on succeeding at whatever it is that you're facing. For instance, if you want to succeed at writing frequent love letters then I suggest you define some clear objectives, plan ahead and be diligent.
Step  4 - Daily love letter inspiration from your journal. If you want to ensure this new tradition (writing love letters) sticks, perhaps you should build it into your daily routine. Even if you write weekly or monthly (I write weekly), devote some time each day to this tradition and it'll be easier to maintain. Maybe first thing in the morning or the last thing you do before lights out, pull out your journal and jot down one thing you love about your sweetheart, one thing you can do better or one interesting (or new) thing you noticed. Just a few seconds each day and you'll more prepared when you sit down to write your next letter.
Step  5 ~ Pick a day and a time. Set aside a specific day of the week and time for writing and sharing your love letters. Pick Sunday afternoon, Friday night, or Saturday morning during breakfast. Pick whatever works best for you. Just pick a time you can repeat each week.

A couple more things

• Start simple (commit to 30 days), get a win under your belt and then go for another 30.
• Don't be too hard on yourself. You'll miss a day or a week now and then. But we all make mistakes and fail. Just start up again. Eventually it will become second nature. Trust me.

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 Birthday Messages

1) I WANTED TO SAY IT WITH A BUNCH OF FLOWERS

A CARD WOULD HAVE SUFFICED.

I WANTED TO SAY IT WITH A PACK OF SWEETS

A' HI' WOULD HAVE SUFFICED.

I THOUGHT TO SEND A POETIC WISH.

POEMS ARE MEANT FOR MEN & WOMEN

DOES A POEM NEED A POEM FOR A WISH?

I WOULD SIMPLY SAY.....,

HAPPY BIRTHDAY !

2) Morning I went to the church

The priest looked at me in awe

I never visit the church in mornings

"Father!"I tell him

"Today is her birthday"

On the way back the Sun I saw

Was shining brighter.

The birds flew high chirping love

I tell myself,"They might have known,

that today is her birthday"

All my friends were happy

For a dinner I gave as treat

A curious friend asked me why

"Dear"I tell him

"Today is her birthday"

I will never be dull even when the Sun is at West

For I knew very well

that I will live for the same day

to come again the years to follow

for this day will always be your birthday

HAPPY BIRTHDAY

3) If you are married

your wife will be happy

for you were born this day.

If you are not married

Your parents will be happy

for you were born this day.

If you don't have parents

We will be happy as your friends

for you were born this day.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY

How to Ask For a Second Chance in Your Marriage

I don't know the specifics of your situation. Perhaps your spouse is only frustrated in the marriage. Perhaps he or she has taken it further already asked for a divorce or break. Maybe you've simply made a mistake and want to ask your husband and wife for forgiveness, to start over, or for another chance. Whatever your circumstances, I firmly believe (from my personal experience and research) that there is a right way and a wrong way to approach your spouse about this. This article will discuss what I feel is the best way, (with the highest chance of success), to talk your spouse into giving your marriage another chance.

The Wrong Way To Plead Your Case Or Ask For Forgiveness From Your Spouse: No matter what you've done, the absolute first thing to remember is not to panic or act in a desperate way that pushes your spouse further away. It's absolutely understandable that you don't want this pain, misunderstanding or marital damage to continue or go on for any longer than is necessary. It makes sense that you would think that the longer your spouse is angry or hurt, the longer it will take to mend, save, or get the marriage back on track.

However, it's important to remember that acting unstable, desperate, or in an exaggerated way (examples are bugging, berating, and making excessive attempts to communicate with your spouse (repeatedly calling, texting, begging, etc.)) is probably only going to make you appear more unattractive and out of control.

Instead, every chance you can, present yourself as a genuinely loving spouse who respects both herself and her spouse enough to communicate with him / her in a dignified and honest way.

The Right Way To Ask Your Spouse To Give Your Marriage Another Or Better Try: Maybe the problems in your marriage are genuinely your fault. Maybe they aren't. I really can't or don't know the specifics or your situation. No matter what got you here, I believe there is a right way to get you out.

First, if you haven't already, put yourself in your husband or your wife's situation. How do they feel right now? What do they really want to resolve this situation? What can you do to accomplish this while maintaining your integrity and dignity?

(Hint: What most spouses truly want is for their spouses to empathize with them, understand how they feel, and care deeply about those feelings.)

So, if you are going to apologize and ask for a second chance, do it in a very specific way. Address exactly why you are sorry. Tell your husband or wife that you have thought a great deal about the marriage and situation and you suspect that they feel (you have to fill in the blanks here with your honest assessment of how your spouse is feeling.) Ask them if this is accurate and ask them to share their feelings with you. Listen without interrupting or correcting them in any way. Apologize that they feel this way and tell them that you, too, are feeling pain and are going to do everything in your power to end that pain. Then, outline your plan. (This is going to vary based upon your unique situation. Remember when you put yourself in your spouse's shoes and thought about what they wanted? Consider this when formulating your plan.)

If your spouse is not receptive, or wants to argue or strike back, diffuse the situation. You don't want to allow more negative emotions into the situation. Your goal is to begin introducing positive feelings. Understand that this may take a while.

What To Do After You've Asked Your Spouse To Hear You Out: Your spouse may not be receptive at first and you should not push them or lose your patience. Forcing your hand or begging for a definitive answer will likely weaken your position.

The best thing that you can do is, every chance you get, present yourself as a patient, loving, understanding partner who fully understands that your spouse is worth any aggravation and wait.

On an extremely regular basis, you want to present your husband or wife with the best version of yourself - the person that he or she likely first fell in love with. Whether you believe it or not, you likely have an advantage here. Your spouse fell in love with and married you once, so you do know what it takes to win their love and devotion. You just have to accomplish this again, in spite of your current situation.

Later, if you need to, educate yourself on what is necessary to make a marriage strong and lasting. You don't want to repeat the same mistakes and, once your marriage is back on track and strong enough to handle it, you'll need to address any reoccurring or major issues that may keep coming up and weakening your marriage.

Saving Your Marriage When One Spouse Does Not Want To

I find it very rare, at least with my readers, that couples who are approaching a divorce do not have at least one party who isn't sure that this is the right path to take. I hardly ever see a situation where both parties are equally sure that ending the marriage is what they really want to do. More often than not, once spouse feels that his or her mind is made up and that breaking up is the only resolution, while the other thinks that with just a little more work, patience, and commitment, the marriage could actually be saved.

Still, wishing, hoping and having good intentions will only get you so far. If his or her mind is really made up, there is little that you can do to change it, at least not until you change the tactics that you've been attempting that haven't worked. When a spouse has checked out of the marriage, it's usually because they have resigned themselves to the fact that things are never going to change. In order to change their mind about this and to therefore to save the marriage, you must show them that in fact things can and will change very dramatically. I will discuss this more in the following article.

Examine Your Actions And Your Tone To Determine If You're Sending The Message That You Really Want To Get Across: I often ask people to take a moment when they interact with their spouse, and to then detach themselves from the situation, and to look at the interactions as an outsider would. What I mean by this is that the next time you're discussing your marriage with your spouse, stop yourself and just objectively listen and watch what is going on. I realize that this is a difficult task, but it can provide you with invaluable information. Often, it will tell you exactly why your spouse has been tuning you out and ignoring you.

It's probably safe to say that they don't like the message that you have been sending or giving. So, it's vital that you determine what that message is. To make things easier, here are some common implications that people report back to me. Now, I'm telling you what your spouse is hearing because of your tone and the way that you are delivering the message. This may not be your intention. But, this is what most spouses tell me that they hear: "You're wrong about all of this. We've been married a long time and you just think you're unhappy because your expectations are impossibly high;" or "Why are you doing this to me and to us? You should be ashamed of yourself to put us and our children through this;" or "You'd better hope that this blows over because I'm going to dwell on this and be resentful for a long time to come and you will have a life sentence of trying to make this up to me;" or "Please don't leave me. I'm not strong enough or capable enough to live on my own. I'm desperately looking for some way or for some foot hold to trick you into dropping this whole silly thing so we can just continue to limp along as we have been."

Again, I don't mean to be critical or to imply that you are literally saying these things. I know that you are not. But, some variation on this is likely at least some of what your spouse is hearing. And, no one wants to be told that they are just plain wrong, or selfish, or mistaken, or have nothing to look forward to other than more of the same and resentment and anger. My point of this exercise was not to upset you, but to show you where your message may be flawed. Because in order to get them to listen to you and to be receptive to you again, the first step is often to change the message.

Finding The Message That Your Spouse Wants To Hear: To regain access to your spouse, you must regain their attention and their trust. So, you will likely have to change your message and, as bad as this may sound, you must disarm them somewhat so that some of the walls will begin to come down. You have to make sure that they are no longer seeing you as a threat, as someone that isn't going to give them a moment's peace until they "give in," or as someone who is only going to fling anger and resentment at them.

So, when you can be calm enough to deliver the message that you want to give, sit them down and tell them that you've had a change of heart. Although what they've been saying hurts you, you know that you owe it them, yourself, and to your marriage to hear them out and to work with them. You've been thinking long and hard about this, and you realize that they have been right about many things. Neither of you are as happy as you could or should be. Both of you deserve that. The marriage has possibly been broken for a long time. You're done denying that or trying to change their mind about it. You can not change this fact. What's done is done. All that you can do now is to control how you react to the situation and how you make it better for both you. And, you can't possibly predict or even control the future. What you can predict though is your own behavior. So, you're not longer going to behave in a negative way. You're going to conduct yourself in a way that you can be proud of.

Now, understand that your spouse is probably going to doubt either your sincerity or the reality of what you're saying. They may well think that you really want to believe what you're saying, but over time, they suspect that you'll start falling back into hold behaviors. You must show them over time that things are really going to be different and that you are very capable of doing exactly what you said that you would.

Use The Advantages That You Have: You may not realize this, but you do have the advantage of history and knowledge on your side. You know your spouse like no other. You have a shared history that does bind and bond you. And, you know what attributes excites your spouse and makes them fall in love. You possess these attributes. Sure, things change, but your core does not. You may have more time commitments, more responsibilities, and less of yourself to give, perhaps. Or at least it feels this way sometimes. But, you do have the ability to change your priorities, at least for as long as you need to, to get things back on track. Don't try to build Rome in a day or this will place too much pressure on you and your spouse. Focus at first just on reconnecting and becoming comfortable with one another again. Take small baby steps and allow a natural give and take. This won't happen overnight, but if you move slowly and focus on what brought you together in the first place, it can happen.

How to Keep Your Marriage In Tact With Meditation

How difficult is it to keep a marriage? You simply need to look at the divorce statistics. Thousands of couples have decided to separate. Many countries are already making divorce legal. The number of single parents and children with absentee mothers and fathers is increasing.

Keeping a marriage is truly difficult. After all, you're dealing with another person whose personality may be completely different to yours. However, you would not be committed today if you aren't decided to at least give it your best shot.

Interestingly, there are many different ways on how to make sure your marriage can definitely last until death will do you apart. You can keep romanticism alive with regular dates or out-of-town trips. You may leave sweet messages to each other. You can also meditate.

How Meditation Can Improve Marriages

You may ask, "How can meditation improve a marriage condition?" Truthfully, you can count on several ways. First, meditation ensures you can have a clear mind all the time. This is very important as negative emotions can also bring about negative energies into the union. If you are constantly worried or uncertain about certain things, you will become very moody and frustrated. You tend to overlook the good things that could be happening right now in your marriage.

Meditation also makes you aware of things, accepting those that need acceptance. If you're having a hard time forgiving your spouse for a mistake he or she did, you may want to take some time off to meditate. Moreover, if you are unsure why you seem to be irritated by your spouse's presence, you can utilize the same process to get to the root cause of the issue. Perhaps it has something to do with your childhood. Coming to terms with it, facing it, and resolving the issue through meditation can get rid of the blockage and allow yourself to nurture the relationship more effectively.

Meditation also relaxes you. In general, marriage can be very stressful; and you don't want that because, again, it lets out the inner demons such as anger, indifference, and hate. The process of meditating and proper breathing allows the proper flow of blood all over the body and the decreased heart rate and blood pressure. Your muscles and nerves will feel more relaxed and comfortable.

Pairing Meditation with Subliminal Messages

You can also make use of meditation or perhaps make it even more efficient through subliminal messages. What are these? These are sentences or phrases that can assist you in changing your thought pattern. If you are thinking of giving up, the subliminal messages may tell you the opposite. Here are a few examples:

I love my husband (or wife).
I am looking forward to building a family with him.
I am loved and I am prepared to give away love.
I have the capacity to build a good marriage.

By using the subliminal messages and meditation, you can change the way you think about marriage: instead of becoming desperate, you will feel more hopeful and motivated.

Birthday Messages - Greetings From the Heart

How many times have you sat, pen in hand, and not been able to think of a thing to write in a birthday card? You don't want to just sign your name or say something used and trite, but nothing is coming to you. Our special collection of birthday greetings is free for you to share with your friends.

Whether you are looking for a funny quip, some words of wisdom and lasting advice, or a way to express your love, you can find birthday messages that fit exactly what you need to say.

A birthday is a one-of-a-kind opportunity to express appreciation for those we care about and to celebrate the wonderful ways they add to your life. Don't let the event go by without special birthday messages that let them know they are on your mind on their birthday.

You can write a thoughtful message into a birthday card or slip it into the wrapping of a special gift. It's the age of text messaging - why not send a birthday greeting in text form. A short birthday message is ideal for texting; an e-card is also a fun and interactive way to send your birthday wishes to a friend.

Try this one on for size:

It's your birthday, another year has passed,
Through new experiences, we had a blast.

Short, simple, and sweet!

Whenever you are stuck for the right saying for your birthday messages, you can find the phrase you need on our site. Just think how much your mom or dad would be thrilled to receive a special birthday greeting from their grandchildren?

Birthdays are such special days - no matter how old you get, that one day can always make you feel appreciated, and the attention and party atmosphere can make anyone feel good. Make a celebration extra-special and important, and give them something they can treasure forever.

Nothing is ever so appreciated as personal, warm birthday messages given with a thoughtful gift. You can add a message to a card - in fact, why not make your own, unique birthday card? Include one of our birthday poems, or a quote or famous saying that expresses your thoughts better than you could do on your own?

It really is the thought that counts, and when you send birthday poems and special greetings, they will truly know that your thoughts are warm, genuine and caring.

Visit our website any time and browse through the full catalog of verses and greetings of all types. You are sure to find the birthday poems and greetings that can bring a smile to their face, a tear to their eye, and a warm feeling to their heart. If laughs are what you want, we have those, too.

If you are creative and sensitive, maybe you have birthday messages you want to share with us. Feel free to submit your own verses to us, and we will be very glad to read them and include them on our site.

We know you will enjoy our special birthday poems, and we hope your loved ones know how much you care - they will surely appreciate the time that you took to share one of these special birthday messages and brighten their day.

Expression of Birthday Messages

Birthday is a very special occasion to celebrate for everyone. The day full of laughter, cheers, and joy becomes more cheering with friends and relatives.

In this hectic routine of day to life it's not possible for everyone to be in person on the festive occasion of a friend's or relative's birthday. In such a situation a small and sweet birthday greeting or just a message also holds significance. Those who have their birthday love to receive gifts and wishes from their near and dear ones be it in the form of a greeting, a simple message on a piece of paper, a wish on the birthday card, or even a birthday SMS. In any form it directly touches the heart of the receiver as it gives them a feeling of intimacy and strengthens the bond of that specified relationship.

For sending a birthday message a deep thought and consideration is required to choose some golden and heart-touching words. Words that offer expression to emotions and words that leaves a lasting impact on the heart of the receiver. It should be such that even after the special day does, the message and the wish retains as cherished memories forever in the heart and mind.

Now the agenda lies in choosing the best message for your loved ones. There are many types and varieties of messages dedicated to such festive and special days of one's life. Before choosing the right kind of message it is very important to choose a simple and expressive language that is easily understandable. If the person you are wishing is not well-versed with English language try to use simple English or a sweet message in Hindi. There are ample of expressive and impressive Hindi messages. In fact at times Hindi is a more preferred choice for expression of emotions.

Depending on your mood and feelings you can decide to write a long or a short message but keep in mind that whatever you write should have a magical effect. If long messages are mere words then they are meaningless and if short messages are true, sincere, and from the heart they leave a magical impact.

In your messages you can either send some quote, some saying, or some natural words from your end. When it comes to originality and sincerity, you can choose to write simple words to appreciate that person and tell the person how important he or she is in your life.

Just keep these small things in mind before sending across any birthday message to your loved ones. And to your notice you'll feel happy to deliver a smile on their face with a single heart-touching message.

Birthday Message For Your Friend's Birthday

All of us celebrate our birthdays and we do different preparations in celebration. Others do love to plan for a birthday party event at home while others do something thrilling for they want to experience something new before stepping onto new chapter of their lives. There are a lot of ways to celebrate the important day and if you want to share it someone or want to it with someone, be sure not to put him or her in harm. You've heard that your friend's parents are planning to give her the surprise party for her birthday and it would be placed on the pool side right next to their house and since your friend means a lot to you, you are thinking for something to give along with the birthday gift you have is you are agonizing on what to include on the birthday message you wish to write on the birthday card.

If you really find it hard to construct a birthday message for your friend's birthday, how will you succeed in giving him the feel of what you really feel? If you want to think of what to include, be creative enough in writing your message and be personal enough but avoid putting stuff that would make her feel bad about you bad and the friendship you have shared. There are ways for you to do and if you want to be really sincere with the message on the birthday card, be sure to link your experiences together and all the fun learning moments you have shared.

A birthday message for your friend's birthday shouldn't be really perfect and creative, but what matters most is that you have written it from the heart and you have written there what you like your friend to know. If you want to be serious enough, you can write in there "thank you" for everything or you can have her realize how worthy your life have become because you have treasure a friend like her. If you like to be a little funny, you can write a joke but not to make her think about but to make her giggle and laugh.

There are really people having trouble writing birthday messages for their friends and if you are one of those, now you learn something. Be sure to write what you really feel and be sincere enough in order to reach out your friend and to make her feel how thankful and blesses you are.

Where to Find the Best Birthday Messages

There used to be limited ways of creating and sending birthday messages. The least creative of us simply rely on pre made cards that already have messages on them. Some just copy from books or printed materials. These messages often find their way to recipients through greeting or gift cards.

These days though, you don't need to limit yourself to traditional ways of getting messages. Thanks to the internet, there are now thousands of original and creative messages online. You just have to use a search engine to find the numerous sites that offer these messages for free. Since there are a lot of sites to choose from though, you'd want to consider only the best sites with birthday messages.

Your first criterion for choosing a site should be variety. It's easy to pick the first message you come across but you would want it to fit your recipient's personality exactly. It would help if you found a site with categories like humorous, inspirational, poetic and the like to choose from.

It's also important to find a site with original text. That is except if you are settling for a quote. If not, you would want your message to be fairly original and not something copied from a poem or greeting card which your recipient may already have read.

Of course, birthday messages can also be custom made. Some free sites offer extra custom message services for a fee. If you want your greeting to be 100% original and suited to your recipient, this is the right option to consider.
 
We like to write letters and the same time to love to receive them also. We get many letters in our mail everyday. We sort these out mechanically as we retrieve them from our mailboxes. These mails are categorized as business letters, professional letters, personal letters, employment letters, billing or collection letters and many more kinds of letters.
But the kind of letters we always look forward to is the personal ones. All of us receive this kind of letter, be it on special occasions or on just on ordinary days. Personal letters can be simple thank you note, invitations to a party or reunion, messages of apology, appreciation letters, notes of condolences to a family, and the most common is the love letter.
Love letters are precious. It never fails to make a heart beat faster as we read it word for word. People would never get tired reading and rereading love letters, until they have taken to heart every single word. What makes love letters exceptional is that unlike others, it sends an emotional high to the readers.

For single males, love letters are sure fire ways of courting their crushes. It is also an effective means of communicating with their girlfriends. But love letters need not always be romantic expressions. It can also be written for family members or favorite grandmother. It is a way of admiring the persons these single males love or owe their lives to.
Married males write love letters to their wives and children. It is their way of telling them how much they appreciate the concern and support being shown. It also a good way of telling them how important they are, that they work hard to make them happy. Married males may also send love notes to their parents or siblings. It may likewise be notes of appreciation, that they became good husbands because of them.
Single females use love letters to communicate their feelings more easily to guys they like. This sometimes rids these girls of the awkwardness of telling their feelings face to face to the guy. They use letters to be more direct with what they want to say.
It is also an effective way to communicate with their boyfriends. It becomes more romantic sometimes to write letters instead of telling it in person. Love letters perpetualize the emotions. It can be read over and over again.
Single females also write love letters to their parents and siblings, or even friends. They let them know how much they are appreciated, and extend their gratitude for taking care of them, and being there for them when they need it.
Married women will communicate with their husbands through letters also sometimes. They let their men know how much they love them, how much they appreciate the way their men take care of the family. Married women also write to their sons and daughters, letting them know how much joy it brought them when they were born.
Love letters can be written for several reasons. The very common reason is to simply express love. Saying "I love you" is made more beautiful through written words. It can also be made more romantic by striking up a good rhyme that one would love to read repeatedly. There are many people who affect our lives dearly, and we want to tell them how much we love them. They may be our parents, siblings, friends, mentor or significant others.
Telling someone how much we miss them is also an expression of love. People send out such love letters to their lovers or friends living from miles away, and who they have not seen for a long time already. It is an indication that though not physically together, they are remembered and held dearly in their hearts.

A romantic love note brightens the day of the sender's sweetheart. It can just be any topic under the sun, liking writing the favorite chorus of a song, telling what happened in their week, or what went on in their jobs.
Not all love letters are joyous and happy to read. Some love letters are sad, like saying goodbye or breaking up with a significant other. The loving feeling emanates throughout the message, but the reason behind writing it is heartbreaking.
Sweet love notes are collection of love notes. Most are just short everyday messages written in small papers like post-it notes. It is just meant for romantic purposes that normally brighten up a day when the receiver finds it upon waking up. These love notes can be posted on the bathroom mirror such that it will be easily noticed when the receiver wakes up. Or it may be posted on the receiver's favorite cup of coffee.
Friendly letters are exchanges of stories between two buddies. These letters are expressions of friendly love. As the two exchange their personal stories, it manifests how much they mean to each other that they will be the first to hear the significant events that happen to them. An example would be relating the excitement of getting accepted in a job.
Love letters can also be by way of apology. It is normal that misunderstandings will occur sometimes in any relationship. Letters of apology express how much the other person mean to us, that we would want to make amends any way we can.

What is a mini love letter?
It is a short letter usually consisting of 1 to 3 sentences. It can be sent on a physical scented paper, an email or even a mobile short messaging. It is even more effective when the mini love letter is written in an unconventional medium such as on a pencil, bottle, tree bark you picked up and even on a piece of nice cloth. When a mini love letter is written in an unconventional medium, it becomes a treasure. Mini love letters are easy reading. A one sentence statement conveys strong feelings and images especially to the recipient.
Are mini love letters effective? Well, if you think about it, mini love letters are a multi-billion dollar industry already - your greeting cards are mini love letters! Notice how many words or phrases are there in the cards which you will easily pay $3 dollars to as much as $15 per card? Those cards are mini love letters written for you and you just have to pick one out. Although, it is a nice gesture, the problem with those is that your recipient knows that you bought it. So, the best mini love letters are those that come from your thoughts, your heart and those you created yourself. If you use a very unconventional medium, the mini love letter becomes even more pleasurable to the recipient. With an unconventional medium, your mini love letters 'reeks of effort' which will automatically radiate from it, and the recipient will recognize that instantly.
The best type of mini love letters must invoke positive emotion. Of course mini love letters can be used to express apology or regret but never to express disappointment or anger. So, two pointers in writing a mini love letter are:
- The best one is those thought up by yourself,
- It must be funny, romantic, a positive thought.
There is an easier way to write mini love letters i.e. to take some hints from other well written ones. But a word of caution, never copy it wholesale. The recipient will know and sometimes can become damaging. Even if the mini love letter turns out not very well written, you mini love letter will "reek of effort", which is more important than the actual words itself. If you chose to copy the words, state where you get it and it will better. Honesty is the best policy here.
Before you go and find some ideas, think about your feelings which you want to express. There may be several, pick one or two which you like to express now. By narrowing down your wants, it will make your search a little easier. Then look at places where you can get some ideas and here are some sample places where you can get some interesting ideas.

• Greeting cards.
• Poems
• Songs
• Famous sayings (be sure that you cite the author, if taken wholesale)
• Samples letters
• Love story books
• Love websites.
• Books especially those that deal with relationships.
• Book titles.

Pick out a few sentences from a variety of sources which express your feelings. You then have to rewrite them in your own words. Take out phrases from those sentences and combine them and play around with them until the final mini love letter expresses what you feel.

Writing a love letter does not have to be difficult. Many people shy away from writing love letters to their spouse or partner because they feel that they don't have the words to describe how they feel or because they don't think they are romantic enough.
If you have romantic feelings for your partner and if there is something (anything) that you appreciate about your partner then you have what it takes to write a love letter that will be treasured by your partner.

Basic Materials for your Love Letter

Your love letter will be hand written, never typed. It doesn't matter if you think your handwriting is terrible, a love letter is an expression of your heart in your own words. It is something that only you can give because only you have those exact feelings, writing it by hand further intensifies the unique impact of your words.
But you don't have to go crazy. A love letter does not have to be written with a hand-cut feather quill on hand-made paper (though you can use those for added impact if you have them). Some nice quality paper a quality envelope and a comfortable pen that writes well are all that is required. In these days of emails and mass produced form letters any hand written personal mail will immediately stand out.

Getting started

Getting started on your love letter is the most difficult part. Start with today's date. Your letter will likely become a keepsake and knowing the date it was sent will be very important.
Next their name, be personal. If you can't use their first name or a pet name then you shouldn't be writing a love letter in the first place! Whether you start with Dear, Dearest or Darling is your choice but this is a letter and not an email so it's not okay to just put their name, you need that Dear or Dearest.

The message of your love letter

You've made a start. Now you just have to deliver your message. This is the point where most people start to worry. You don't know what to say, you get the love letter equivalent of writers block. So here's a simple tip: Write the first thing that comes into your head and then just keep going. You might start "I wanted to sit and write you a love letter but now I just don't know how to begin..." but that's it, you have begun! Once you make that start the feelings will just tumble out. Don't worry if it comes out wrong the first time, you can write it again in your best handwriting and make it perfect later.
Still stuck for what to say, here are some other tips:
1. Make a list of all the things you like about your partner. These might be physical attributes like their hair, skin or eyes and they might be things about the way they act, their personality or how they make you feel : I love the way you hold me when I'm upset, I love the smell of your neck, I love waking up in the morning and seeing you. Don't put the list in your letter - this is a love letter not a laundry list! Use it as inspiration.
2. Be real. Don't use flowery language if it's not you. Your partner longs for your genuine voice and your genuine feelings.
3. Praise your partners' genuine attributes. Don't write about your loves great singing voice if they sound like a foghorn and they know it. If they have fantastic eyes write about those.
4. Write about your shared experiences. Do you remember the time when... How do you feel about those times? Tell your partner.

Wrapping up the love letter

All good things come to an end and your love letter is no exception. You opened your letter formally with Dear, Darling or Dearest but you don't have to close it so formally. Yours Faithfully or Yours Sincerely will look out of place here. Think instead along the lines of "All my love" or "All my love forever" and sign off with your name or pet name.
And don't forget the x's.

I Love You u- Say It in 100+ Different Ways

Valentine's Day is just around the corner and for sure everyone is thinking of ways on how to show your loved one how much you love them. Most popular are chocolates and roses; dining out or cooking for them; teddy bears or any stuffed animal which you know the love of your life wants; and of course greeting cards - whether it's the "regular" card sealed lovingly in an envelope or the more "modern" e-card, for sure you'll jot down what your heart wants to say - how much you love him/her. I LOVE YOU definitely is something that anybody would want to hear from you, but why not make it extra special by saying or writing it in another language?

To make your life easier, I have compiled several different ways of saying I LOVE YOU to your true love. Have a wonderful Valentine's Day because I'm certain that I'll have one with my one and only love whom I fondly call "MINE"... I LOVE YOU DEX

Most Popular:

Filipino - Mahal kita

Chinese(Mandarin) - Wo ai ni

English - I love you

French - Je t'aime

German - Ich liebe dich

Italian - Ti amo

Japanese - Daisuki / Ai shiteiru

Korean - Sarang-hae / Sarang-hamnida

Portuguese -Eu te amo

Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo

Other Languages:

AFRIKAANS -ek het jou lief / ek is lief vir jou

ALBANIAN - të dua

ALSATIAN - ich hab die lieb

Dialectal ARABIC (North African) - n'bghick

Dialectal ARABIC (Eastern) - bahebbak (to a man) / bahebbik (to a woman)

Literary ARABIC - ouhibbouka (to a man) / ouhibbouki (to a woman)

ARMENIAN - yes kez siroumem

ASTURIAN - quiérote

ATTIÉ - min bou la yé

AZERI - men seni sevirem

BAMBARA - né bi fè

BASQUE - maite zaitut

BAOULE - mi klôa

BELARUSIAN - Ya tabe kahayu

BENGALI -aami tomakey bhalo basi

BERBER - righ kem

BOBO - ma kia bé nà

BOSNIAN - volim te

BRETON - karout a ran ac'hanout / da garout a ran / me az kar

BULGARIAN - Obicham te

BURMESE - nga nin ko chit te

CATALAN - t'estimo

CHEYENNE - ne'mehotatse

CHINESE - wo ai ni

CORSICAN - amu tè / ti tengu caru

CROATIAN - volim te

CZECH - Miluju TÄ? (or Miluji TÄ?)

DANISH - jeg elsker dig

DIOULA - mi fê

DUTCH - ik hou van jou

ESPERANTO - mi amas vin

ESTONIAN - ma armastan sind

FAROESE - eg elski teg

FINNISH - minä rakastan sinua

FILIPINO - mahal kita

FLEMISH (WESTERN) - 'k zien je geeren

FRENCH - je t'aime

FRISIAN - ik hâld fan dy

FRIULAN - o ti vuei ben

GALICIAN - amo-te / ámote / quero-te / quérote

GEORGIAN - me shen mikvarkhar

GERMAN - ich liebe Dich

GREEK - s'agapo

GUARANÍ - rojhayhû

GUJARATI - hun tane prem karun chhun

HAITIAN CREOLE - mwen renmen'w / mouin rinmin'w

HAWAIAN - Aloha Au Ia`oe

HEBREW - ani ohev otakh (man to a woman)/ ani ohevet otkha (woman to man)

HINDI - main tumse pyar karta hoo

HMONG - kuv hlub koj

HUNGARIAN - szeretlek

ICELANDIC - ég elska þig

INDONESIAN - saya cinta padamu / saya cinta kamu

IRISH GAELIC - tá grá agam duit

ITALIAN - ti amo

JAPANESE - aishitemasu / aishiteru (barely used) / anata ga daisuki desu("cute")

KABYLIAN - hamlagh-kem (man to woman) / hamlaghk (woman to man)

KANNADA - naanu ninnanna pritisutteney

KHMER - bang srolaïgn ôn (man to woman) / ôn srolaïgn bang (woman to man)

KINYARWANDA - ndagukunda

KOREAN - saranghe

KURDISH - ez te hez dikim

LAO - khoi hak tchao lai

LATIN - te amo

LATVIAN - es tevi mīlu

LEBANESE - b'hibik (man to woman) / b'hibak (woman to man)

LIGURIAN - mi te amu

LINGALA - na lingi yo

LITHUANIAN - a? tave myliu

LOW SAXON - ik hou van ju

LUXEMBOURGEOIS - ech hun dech gäer

MACEDONIAN - te sakam

MALAGASY - tiako ianao / tia anao aho (stronger)

MALAY - aku cinta padamu

MALAYALAM - enikku ninné ishtamaanu

MALTESE - inhobbok

MANX - ta graih aym ort

MAORI - kei te aroha au i a koe

MARQUESAN - hinenao au ia oe

MONGOLIAN - Bi chamd khairtai

MORÉ - mam nong-a fo

NAPOLETANO - t'ammo

NDEBELE - niya ku tanda

NEPALI - ma timilai prem garchhu

NORWEGIAN - jeg elsker deg

OCCITAN - t'aimi

PAPIAMENTU - mi ta stima bo

PERSIAN - dustat dâram (formal) / duset dâram (informal)

POLISH -Kocham Ciebie

PORTUGUESE - amo-te / eu te amo (Brazilian Portuguese)

PUNJABI - mein tenu pyar karda han (male speaker) / mein tenu pyar kardi han(female speaker)

QUECHUA de CUZCO - munakuyki

RAPA NUI - hanga rahi au kia koe

ROMANI - kamaù tut

ROMANIAN - te iubesc

RUSSIAN - Ya tebya liubliu

SAMOAN - ou te alofa ia te oe

SANGO - mbi yé mô

SARDINIAN - deo t'amo (logudorese) / deu t'amu (campidanese)

SCOTTISH GAELIC - tha gaol agam ort / tha gaol agam oirbh

SERBIAN - volim te

SESOTHO - ke ya ho rata

SHIMAORE - ni su hu vendza

SHONA - ndinokuda

SINDHI - moon khay tu saan piyar aahay

SINHALA - mama oyata aadareyi (spoken) / mama obata aadareyi (formal)

SIOUX - wastewalake

SLOVAK - Lu`bim ta

SLOVENIAN - ljubim te / rad te imam (male speaker) / rada te imam (femalespeaker)

SOBOTA - volim te / se te volime (lit.)

SOMALI - waan ku jecelahay

SONINKÉ - na moula

SPANISH - te amo / te quiero

SUSU - ira fan ma

SWAHILI - nakupenda

SWEDISH - jag älskar dig

TAGALOG - mahal kita

TAHITIAN - ua here vau ia oe

TAJIKI - jigarata bihrum duhtari hola (man to woman) / tra lav dorum (woman toman)

TAMIL - naan unnai kaadhalikkarn

TATAR - min sine yaratam

TELUGU - nenu ninnu premisthunnanu

TETUN - hau hadomi o

TIBETAN - na kirinla gaguidou

TURKISH - seni seviyorum

TURKMEN - seni söýärin

UKRAINIAN - Ya tebe kahayu

URDU - mein tumse mohabbat karta hoon (man to woman)/ main tumse mohabbat kartihoon (woman to man) / mujhe tum se pyar heh

UZBEK - men seni sevaman / men seni yahshi ko'raman (less formal)

VENETIAN - t'amo

VIETNAMESE - anh yêu em (man to woman)/ em yêu anh (woman to man)

WALOON - (orthographe à betchfessîs) dji vs voe voltî

WELSH - rydw i'n dy garu di

WEST INDIAN CREOLE - mwen enmen

WOLOF - nob nala

XHOSA - ndiyakuthanda

YIDDISH - ich hob dir lib

YORUBA - moni ife e

ZULU - ngiyakuthanda.


There was a time, not so long ago, when a handwritten letter from a loved one, friend or associate allowed the person who penned it to be close to the reader, whether across town or across the country. People took time to think about what they were going to say before they wrote it.
Letter writing was a process. We selected a fine-quality stationery to carry the message and picked the right pen -- a fountain pen, the kind we filled from an ink bottle. Often we wrote draft of the letter to be sure it was thoughtful and not rambling. Our best penmanship was a must, and we always read the letter before posting it. That's how we pre-boomers were taught. The way we go about communicating today bears little resemblance to this dying tradition.
Communications capabilities resulting from technology have replaced letter writing for the most part. As soon as we receive an electronic message of any sort, we hasten to provide a quick response. Usually no one has asked for an immediate reply, but our culture is so accustomed to instant gratification that we feel compiled to do so. Writing is only one of the communications tools that have become a faster-than-the-speed-of-light phenomenon. All forms of transmitting and receiving thoughts, ideas and instructions have suffered from the "fast is better" attitude, a trap into which we have all fallen.
The idea of being on call 24 hours a day, seven days a week is the curse of the computer age. It started with beepers, then cell phones and now its BlackBerrys and iPhones; all of which are networked with our desktop and laptop computers. We could turn off these "conveniences" but are afraid someone won't be able to get through to us or maybe we'll miss something. Are we that important? Is what they have to say that earthshaking? Could all of us benefit from a little downtime so we can think instead of react?
Gone are the days when a letter took several days to deliver and the recipient read it and considered it before writing back. This process took ten days or more. Of course, if a fast reply was in order, one could always call. However, business calls were restricted to office hours and personal calls were made at the appropriate times as well. Now, we try people on their cells, leave text messages and back these up with emails. The sense of urgency is so instilled in us that we have lost all subtlety in the way we present the message, no matter which mode of communications we use.
Drama, sweetness, sincerity, expression and gentle persuasion have given way to punchy statements, abbreviations, poor grammar, even poorer spelling and a lack of sensitivity in current day communications. Instant photos or streaming videos with sound captured on a cell phone and sent to everyone we know have a place in society. But all to often, these mini-messages water down our ability to build relationships and nourish them by painting pictures with our words through a personal one-on-one letter that means something to the person who sends it as well as the person who receives it. Imagine texting someone a love letter. How romantic.

 Below you will find a variety of kiss types. If you find some that catch your fancy, feel free to try them :-)
Butterfly Kiss - With your faces less than a breath away, open and close your eyelids against your partners. If done correctly, the fluttering sensation will match the one in your heart.
Cheek Kiss - A friendly, "I really like you" kiss. Often the preferred kissing method of a first date. With your hands on your partner's shoulders, gently brush your lips across her cheek.
Earlobe Kiss - Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises as ears are sensitized noise detectors.
Eskimo Kiss - With your faces less than a breath apart, gently rub your noses together.
Eye Kiss - Hold your partner's head with both hands and slowly move their head in the direction you wish your kiss to go... then slowly kiss up towards your partner's eyes and give them a tender kiss on top of their closed eyes.
Eyelid Kiss - While your partner is resting/sleeping with eyes closed, very very gently kiss the spot right below their browbone. A very intimate kiss.
Finger Kiss - While laying together gently suck on their fingers. This can be very seductive and pleasurable.
Foot Kiss - An erotic and romantic gesture. It may tickle, but relax and enjoy it! To give a toe kiss by gently suck the toes and then lightly kissing the foot. It helps to gently massage the base of the foot while performing the kiss.
Forehead Kiss - The "motherly" kiss or "just friends" kiss. The forehead kiss can be a comforting kiss to anyone. Simply brush your lips lightly across the crown of their head.
Freeze Kiss (or Melt Kiss) - Experiment with this fun kiss. Put a small piece of ice in your mouth, then open mouth and kiss your partner, passing them the ice with your tongue. It's an erotic and sensual French kiss with a twist of cold.
French Kiss - The kiss involving the tongue. Some call this the "Soul Kiss" because the life and soul are thought to pass through the mouth's breath in the exchange across tongues. Surprisingly, the French call this "The English Kiss".
Fruity Kiss - Take a small piece of fruit and place between your lips (juicy fruits such as grapes, strawberries, small pieces of pineapple or mango are ideal). Kiss your partner and nibble one half of the piece of fruit while they nibble the other until it breaks in half, allowing the juice to run into your mouths.
Hand Kiss - Gently raise her hand to your lips. Lightly brush your lips across the top of her hand. Historically this kiss was performed with a bow, which showed deference to a lady.
Hickey Kiss - The object is not to draw blood, but to gently leave a mark that will prove your interlude was not a dream. This is often included in erotic foreplay.
Hostage Kiss - Cover your lips with tape and get your love's attention. When they come near, make noises like you're trying to tell them something and motion as if you can't get the tape off. Once they remove the tape from you to hear what you're trying to say tell them: "I've been saving my lips all day just for you!" Then kiss your love passionately!
Hot and Cold Kiss - Lick your partner's lips so that they're warm, and then gently blow on them. The sudden cold blast makes for a sensual explosion, and they will often try it on you next, as well as get very passionate.
Mistletoe Kiss - Surprise your lover by capturing them with a gentle holiday kiss under the mistletoe. This is also a good method for shyer individuals to steal a kiss from a potential lover.
Letter Kiss - Send your lover a kiss in a love letter by writing the letter x several times in a row at the bottom of a letter such as XXXXX.
Lick Kiss - Just before kissing, gently run your tongue along you partners lip whether it be the top or bottom one depending on the position of your lips. Very sensual.
Lip Sucking Kiss - When kissing gently suck on their lower lip. This can be very exciting.
Neck Nibble Kiss - Gently nibble up and down your partners neck. End with a gentle kiss on the lips.
Nip Kiss - This kiss can create a very erotic sensation. While kissing your partner, ever so gently nibble on their lips. You must be very careful not to bite to hard or hurt your partner. When done correctly, this kiss ignites wonderful sensations.
Reverse Lips Kiss - It involves standing above your lover and kissing them from over their head. This way, each kisser can take the hyper-sensitive bottom lip of their lover in their mouths, and GENTLY draw blood to the surface of the lip by nibbling and sucking. A very sensuous, connecting kiss.
Searching The Cavern - Use the lips and tongue to gently tickle and kiss your lover's navel. Vary speeds and stroke to change sensation. Invigorating and intoxicating.
Shoulder Kiss - Simply come from behind, embrace her, and kiss the top of her shoulder. This is a sensual, loving kiss.
Sip Kiss - Take a small sip of your favorite drink. Leaving a little bit of it on your lips, kiss your partner. It is a unique way to create a sensual feeling and your partner will enjoy it.
Talking Kiss - Whisper sweet nothings into your partner's mouth. If caught in the act, simply say as Chico Marx, "I wasn't kissing her. I was whispering into her mouth."
Teaser Kiss - Starting on the forehead, a sweet short kiss on lips, then move up the arms up to her hand, kiss her hand, then come back up her arm, to her face and then lightly kiss her lips till she wants a passionate kiss.
The Buzzing Kiss - Gently place your lips against your lover's neck , behind their ear. Now, send a shudder through their skin by gently growling and humming, vibrating your lips and cheeks as you do so. Move up and down the neck, over the bones of the face and lips. Stimulating and erotic when done correctly.
The Whipped Cream Kiss - Dip your finger into some cool whip or whipped cream of your choice. Lick it off slowly, then embrace your partner and kiss them deeply letting their tongue slip over yours for a wonderfully sweet kiss. It's very seductive and passionate.
Tiger Kiss - Quietly sneak up behind your partner making sure they do not know what you are going to do. Out of the blue, grab them and gently bite their neck. Make sure to get a few good growls in too. This will surely surprise them.
Trickle Kiss - Take a sip of a favourite drink and trickle it slowly into partner's mouth while kissing.
Tongue Sucking - A variation of the French kiss. During an open-mouth kiss gently suck on your partner's tongue (not too hard because it may hurt). Very sexy :-)
Quickie Kiss - When you're in a rush. Often the nose gets it rather than the lips.
Vacuum Kiss - While kissing open-mouthed, slightly suck in as if you were sucking the air from your partners mouth. This is a playful kiss.
Wake Up Kiss - Before your partner awakes lean over and kiss his or her cheek and move over giving soft kisses until you reach his or her lips. This is definitely a more than pleasant way to wake up!